Having conducted much research on the topic, AND having lived through it myself, it is inevitable that the collapse of a long term relationship is psychologically draining, particularly when there are children involved. But is it preventable? Can it be prevented by the standard marriage counsiling advice to “continue falling in love”, or is that itself too draining to keep up with as well? How can love be extended for high school sweethearts that are realizing their own “till death do us part” dreams are falling “apart”? How can the love last beyond the simple suggestions of “keep dating each other”…?
What is the individual psychological make up required to withstand the “bomb” dropping on either spouse and push through the cliche of “I Love you but, I’m not in love with you”?